I was impressed with this sophisticated thinking from Mary Parker Follett -
'Do not try to see which side is right in a conflict. Assume both sides are 'right' and make the conflict work to produce an integration of interests which is not victory nor compromise but something in advance of both of those.'
Read more about Mary Parker Follett, a woman 'ahead of her time' here.
She was talking about in a business context, but her wisdom might perhaps apply to any conflict....