I have been posting questions I ask clients when I am commissioned to design a garden - so they will amount to an online Design Your Own Garden Course if you like to follow all the suggestions!
Here is the fourth question I ask. The answers of course are not just ticking the box - a lot of discussion goes on at this stage - perhaps you can discuss the questions with someone?
This one is another check list -
What kind of plants do you want?
Flowers for cutting
Flowers to attract wildlife/birds/butterflies
Containers with bedding
Don't tick them all! Unless you have a lot of space and a gardener (or two.)
Flowers for picking are a priority for me - even if just tiny posies..