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26/11/2014

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Giving away things that once meant a lot to me, and no longer do, was making me feel a bit sad. I even thought momentarily 'what a waste of time' collecting (candlesticks and quilts) only to be considering giving them away now....

But surely not!
 
I learned so much, from books and museums and auction houses, I enjoyed the search in beautiful parts of the country, I met some wonderful people who are still friends. And earned a modest living. 

They were about who I was then. I've outgrown them. I'm selecting just a few to keep - the ones with the strongest, happiest memories - the ones which still thrill me.

We change, we grow, and it makes sense that we want to change our environment and the things and memories that we surround ourselves with. Our tastes change. I find it useful to ask myself Would I buy it now?  No need for guilt, or sadness. That was then and this is now I tell myself as I pass forward the things which I no longer want to keep. (I do keep photographs of them though).

Now, I want to be as involved, as enthusiastic, as excited and have as much fun.... just not by collecting things! 
 

A few more wise words from Marie Kondo -

Really important things are not that great in number.

It is not our memories but the person we have become because of those past experiences that we should treasure.

Do you agree?
16 Comments
julia
26/11/2014 07:18:42 am

so true, freda! and as we age (and become more wise...:-), we begin to clarify what truly matters...one passion i have had is books..i realize that i cannot possibly read every book i have purchased, before i die, unless i do nothing else but read.....so it has been a similar journey for me, to just let them go.....forgive myself for the purchase (my mind says: waste of money!)...and make room in our home for what i NOW want to read....and yes! the pile is growing again...:-)
i have given hundreds and hundreds to the library; and i like to think that they will be there, if i ever DO decide to read them!

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Freda
27/11/2014 06:48:44 am

I hope we're getting wiser! One could read forever....

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Swissrose link
26/11/2014 08:08:04 pm

Oh yes, I feel exactly the same - now I am thrilled to give things away and to feel I don't need them any longer and they can give someone else the pleasure they once gave me! I think it must be age (50 this week!) that gives us this confidence of who we are and what we have and to assure us - it's enough! Books, magazines, decorative objects, you name it, I don't need (most of) it any more.

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Freda
27/11/2014 06:49:22 am

Have a very happy birthday!

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Swissrose link
27/11/2014 04:42:36 pm

Thankyou Freda!

cath
27/11/2014 12:05:54 am

The part starting with 'We change, we grow' I found really moving. Could it be that with experiencing the sadness and letting go
not only space, but also transparancy is a reward?

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Freda
27/11/2014 06:50:30 am

It's lovely to focus on the 'reward'.

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Penny L
27/11/2014 12:28:01 am

Gosh, yes. I really must put this on book on my Christmas list ( well I say list, I'll buy it then give it to one of them to wrap up! )pennyx

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Freda
27/11/2014 06:51:08 am

A neat way to get the presents you want Penny!

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Madeleine
27/11/2014 03:32:45 am

'Would I buy it now?' - what a brilliant question to ask as one lets go.

Madeleine.x

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Freda
27/11/2014 06:52:39 am

If the answer is no, it's so easy to simply let it go....

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Gail
27/11/2014 09:16:04 am

Thanks for articulating your wise thoughts.

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Freda
28/11/2014 08:18:09 pm

I'd like to think I'm getting wiser!

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marielle link
28/11/2014 12:57:42 am

I agree. I started being conscious of all the things I accumulated over the years when one day I had a huge yard sale and realized most of the things I was selling I had bought in yard sales...this was a wake up call! I still love to browse in thrift shops, salvation army and the likes. Sometimes I will buy something but it really has to grab me. More and more I try to apply the 4 R's principles: Refuse, Re-use, Reduce, Recycle.

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Freda
28/11/2014 08:18:58 pm

The four Rs are really useful - thank you..

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