Simply..transitioning into....

8/1/2017

.... a new life. As we all are in one way or another.

The Guardian newspaper runs a series of articles called Widower of The Parish by a man whose wife has died....He says 'Once you have accepted that the life you had is unrecoverable, you might just be able to create a new one that isn't just simply the old one but sadder.'

This item from Christina Rasmussen's blog struck a chord with me, particularly as I am going on a train journey soon.

Sometimes I listen to these meditations and find them helpful.

Snippets from a conversation or a song can resonate - 'One day I'll fly away, leave all this to yesterday.' which I thought of when I flew to Berlin.

2016 will always be for me the year that my husband Barry died, the hardest year I ever had, and much of it felt like wading through treacle. In slow motion. Exhausting.

I like this little being from a Christmas card - Just how I feel of late..a bit fragile, wobbly, but still upright!

Here's to wobbling on :-)

15 Comments

Lotta

8/1/2017 02:56:22 pm

This post touched me Freda. I'm full of admiration for how you're handling grief - and I know some days it refuses to be handled and floors you instead. Thank you for sharing Cristina Rasmussen's post - it made me cry - I've not long got off my own train. The lovely thing about penguins is that they're not solitary creatures - so when you wobble there are sure to be others to lean against... x

(I read somewhere that a group of Penguins in water is called a 'raft' and a group on land is called a 'waddle'!)

Freda

9/1/2017 02:14:56 pm

I love knowing those things about penguins..

Laura

8/1/2017 11:44:46 pm

We all have a wee wobbly penguin inside us. I think some days it's held up by friends and family but some days it just needs to fall over and rest a little. X

Freda

9/1/2017 02:15:37 pm

Falling, resting.

Julia

9/1/2017 04:42:56 am

And freda....this little penguin looks like she might be ready to pick up speed at some point and start sledding down that hill....
You post today is so touching and thoughtful....keep on keeping on, freda...you are doing all the right things to heal...xoxox

Julia

9/1/2017 04:51:51 am

Having now read all the links, too...i must say....deeply moving and so, so thoughtful....what a helpful post, freda...for all of us.

Freda

9/1/2017 02:16:26 pm

I'd be very happy to think it might help someone else.

cath

9/1/2017 08:34:43 am

Transition. That may leave us with the feeling of being without skin,
or fragile and wobbly as you say.

Sometimes (my experience) a transition feels like being lost in a dark wood, like the one Dante wrote about in his Divina Commedia. Knowing from earlier experience that one day and unexpectedly I will find myself reaching the edge of the wood and the sun shining doesn't make the transition period easier, while at the same time I'm learning to trust the path, and my new/deeper self.

And so do you.

Freda

9/1/2017 02:17:47 pm

I do love the many thoughtful and considered comments on this blog!

Cristiana

9/1/2017 09:27:26 am

"Take your broken heart and make it into art", said Meryl Streep in the Globes acceptance speech yesterday and immediately I thought of you Freda. I believe that's what you do here on your blog and like Lotta, I'm full of admiration for how you're handling grief, you have been a priceless source of inspiration to everything good about humanity. Surely that includes fragility and wobbliness at times, but also...new beginnings. Thank you, for everything.

Freda

9/1/2017 02:19:56 pm

Cristiana, I had just listened to Meryl Streep moments before reading your comment! What a wonderful phrase - I shall write it out and put it on the wall. Thank you.

Mary

9/1/2017 06:58:28 pm

I read your post late last night and found I could not respond. Not because it didn't profoundly move me, but because it did. And so I decided to just hold you in my thoughts all day...just as I will in the days to come. Another of your wobbly friends you've never met, but like the others who comment here regularly, one who wants you to know that you are not alone...even when you are. xo

Freda

10/1/2017 04:18:18 pm

What can I say, except Thank You.

Sarah link

10/1/2017 01:19:49 pm

Those words of Christina Rasmussen's blog are so touching and also the comments above. The penguin is such a good image to hold on to.
Sarah x

Freda

10/1/2017 04:19:29 pm

I am so touched by your comments.

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