The recent anniversary of my husband's funeral has prompted me to write this post. I wrote here about wills and thought I shouldn't shy away from this subject either. I put Margareta Magnusson's video under the heading Facing Mortality and this post could also come under that heading.
When I think back to Barry's funeral I feel sadness of course, but I also remember the comfort it gave me that so very many people who loved and respected him came. (If you are in doubt about whether or not you should attend a funeral I would urge you to go if you possibly can). I felt so supported.
I was also comforted by the knowledge that we had arranged a funeral that Barry would have liked. I only knew what he would like because as chance would have it we attended the funeral of a friend not many weeks before. It was unusual - a humanist service with readings, poetry and music and as we left Barry said That was beautiful. That's what I would want my funeral to be like. We had never discussed the subject and had no inkling that Barry's own funeral was a few short weeks away. (Barry died three weeks after a diagnosis of cancer.)
I now think It's good to talk about the subject and in my case even that brief remark brought comfort to me when I needed it most.
I will tell you a little more about it tomorrow.
Meanwhile it is snowing in the sunshine here...