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17/3/2018

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The recent anniversary of my husband's funeral has prompted me to write this post. I wrote here about wills and thought I shouldn't shy away from this subject either. I put Margareta Magnusson's video under the heading Facing Mortality and this post could also come under that heading.

When I think back to Barry's funeral I feel sadness of course, but I also remember the comfort it gave me that so very many people who loved and respected him came. (If you are in doubt about whether or not you should attend a funeral I would urge you to go if you possibly can). I felt so supported.

I was also comforted by the knowledge that we had arranged a funeral that Barry would have liked. I only knew what he would like because as chance would have it we attended the funeral of a friend not many weeks before. It was unusual - a humanist service with readings, poetry and music and as we left Barry said That was beautiful. That's what I would want my funeral to be like.  We had never discussed the subject and had no inkling that Barry's own funeral was a few short weeks away. (Barry died three weeks after a diagnosis of cancer.)

I now think It's good to talk about the subject and in my case even that brief remark brought comfort to me when I needed it most.

I will tell you a little more about it tomorrow.

Meanwhile it is snowing in the sunshine here...
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Julia
17/3/2018 06:57:16 am

Freda, i was particularly touched by this post. When my father died, my mother felt she could not face a public funeral, so we had a private, family only. for me, that was a terrible loss. how i would have treasured hearing the wonderful stories that so many people would have shared with me about my father. Funerals are for the benefit of those left behind. I realize each person has to handle their loss in the best way they can. but you know what i mean about how much friends and family help in a time of grief. My MIL chose no funeral at all. So there we were, just my husband and me. We asked 2 couples to join us at the grave, and then we went out for lunch. But it was certainly not how we would have wanted to honor her life. You’ve brought up a topic we will discuss with our own children and make sure their needs are honored!

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Freda
17/3/2018 03:04:29 pm

I think it's discussing it that counts and that needn't be hard or even too solemn!

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Mary
18/3/2018 03:45:53 am

Thank you for sharing your experience, Freda. My family has shied away from this subject every time I bring it up (as if it will change the inevitable), so I will be leaving my own written funeral ideas so that they will at least know my wishes.

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Freda
18/3/2018 04:07:15 am

That seems like a good solution Mary and you could put it with your will...perhaps they could do the same if they can't manage to talk about it - not everyone can I'm sure.

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Lotta
18/3/2018 06:53:38 am

Endings are so important. I'm glad you were able to create something so comforting Freda. I'm very fortunate that my family will happily discuss these things (often with humour!), and as well as sharing any ideas or preferences we have I know that most of us are happy for those left behind to do whatever feels right for them.

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Freda
18/3/2018 12:25:35 pm

It is so good that you all know and trust each other in these matters!

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