Among the books and websites I've been looking at on the subject of grief, I came across this phrase which resonated with me more than anything else I read.
You have to choreograph your own grief.
(I hope I am correct in attributing it to Christina Rasmussen in her book Second Firsts.)
Choreographing I thought, means being creative, being in charge and making decisions, practicing new things - things original and/or unique, and even dancing a little? Just the possibility is nice to think about.
It's tough just now and posts may continue to be erratic while I learn some new steps....