Simply..guilt, chutzpah and some great questions....

9/10/2017

I love the comments on this blog! I like that it's a conversation and exchange of ideas - interesting ones from interesting people. Thank you for that.

Guilt! With regard to clothes it's usually that we have spent quite a lot on something and hardly worn it. Evil? Immoral? Wicked? Criminal? No, we just had a splurge for whatever reason. We didn't let our children go hungry to buy it, or risk losing our home. We just splashed out a bit more than usual and now it is sitting there unworn.

We can
a) wear it again, altered perhaps (and practice chutzpah)
b) give it away so several people benefit (charity shop worker has a job, purchaser gets a bargain, end user of charity service gets help and we ourselves no longer feel guilt every time we see it
c) sell it on eBay or similar and buy something we will wear and enjoy wearing.

And I think we can forgive ourselves. That's what you'd tell your best friend, wouldn't you?

Lucille mentioned 'chutzpah' even the sound of it suggests supreme self-confidence. I have looked at my collection of seldom/never worn things to see if there are any that I am simply not wearing because I lack the confidence, and I intend to gradually learn to have more chutzpah. Let's be a bit more daring and not take our clothes too seriously! It won't hurt. Join me?

The interesting question was from Linda who asked in yesterday's comments where our interest in clothes originates. This sent me on a nostalgia trip....which I'll elaborate on tomorrow.

Meanwhile..I am loving these

but they squeak!

15 Comments

Gail

10/10/2017 02:44:52 am

You have enough smarts and creativity to think of ideas for post and successfully execute your plans. You are an artist whose talented work is in public view. You’ve opened your lovely (with hard work behind it) to the public. You already have chutzpah. You’re the “ little engine that could” - hope you know that children’s book.

Gail

10/10/2017 04:54:09 am

Oops left out a word “lovely GARDEN”

Freda

10/10/2017 01:48:26 pm

Well thank you Gail! i hadn't looked at it like this and i think I'll get a copy of that book (which I didn't know of.)

Lucille link

10/10/2017 04:40:46 am

There must be something in the wind. I too am now the proud owner of some silver lace ups. Haven't quite worn them yet...

Freda

10/10/2017 01:49:58 pm

I often wear new shoes around the house to both 'break them in' and to get used to them. Enjoy!

Julia

10/10/2017 05:00:31 am

Freda, i have been having this daring idea...part of our guilt: "we spent so much on this item..and we have not worn it enough."...yes, we COULD give it away..or sell it..or we could just surpise the world by wearing it no matter the occasion...as in meeting someone for coffee in a fabulous cocktail dress and just saying: doesn't this dress look terrific with these new squeaky silver sneakers? Or having dinner out in the dress we wore to our daughter's wedding. Wouldn't that be fun?

Lotta link

10/10/2017 10:06:08 am

Love it!

Freda

10/10/2017 01:54:34 pm

You have been listening to John Galliano who says 'Style is wearing an evening dress to McDonald's, wearing heels to play football. It is personality, confidence and seduction'. If and when we ever meet I will wear something outragous....

Lotta link

10/10/2017 10:01:56 am

I have some hiking shoes that rustle - they should get together!

What occurs to me is that when I have something I absolutely LOVE, chutzpah is no problem at all. I don't mind then what anyone else thinks because it's so ME that it can't possibly be wrong! :-) Those things are few and far between though. I definitely need some practice.

Love your shoes by the way!

Freda

10/10/2017 01:57:10 pm

Now that is a very good point. If it is a perfect match for your personality you just enjoy wearing it. Perhaps some of the things I don't often wear were bought for the person I'd quite like to be - a fantasy me - rather than the person I am?

Mary

10/10/2017 12:39:59 pm

Silver slippers for a stroll in sylvan glade. They look smart and comfortable with just a dash of chutzpah.

Funny that a few folks here commented on squeaky shoes. I have had several people I know mention that as issue with their shoes lately--that, and how incredibly hard it is to find shoes that fit. Old brands no longer made with the same kind of last; wild size variations; cheaper materials on what are not cheap shoes: now that is a subject that gets folks talking.

Looking forward to your follow up on Linda's question.

Freda

10/10/2017 01:58:34 pm

Nothing is more difficult to find than the perfect shoe!

Damsonlily

10/10/2017 12:56:46 pm

Oh, I am glad we are talking about the annoyance of noisy shoes!
I have a pair of black leather loafers that CLICK (well, one of them does). No chance of walking quietly through a deserted art gallery or museum and I’d be hopeless at Hide & Seek.
Thank you for letting me share that; I am very much enjoying the other conversations as well....

Freda

10/10/2017 02:01:34 pm

Google How to fix squeaky shoes! Lovely to see you here and to thank you (in case you didn't see that post), for your comment where you said 'Some things you just have to learn to live alongside with'. That has been a help to me Damsonlily. :-)

Damsonlily

12/10/2017 02:26:21 pm

I did see your thanks, Freda and am glad you found that thought of help. After a difficult death in our family, a sibling, which invoked huge feelings of guilt, I found myself on a steep learning curve with regards to how we handle death.
After quite some time I realised it is something that walks alongside you, whatever the circumstances and that you recognise it as such. One of Pauline Prior-Pitt’s poems, The Dead, puts it much more eloquently than I have here.
Apologies to anyone reading this who feels I am being morbid or insensitive here, that is certainly not my intention; I feel that it is a recognition and acceptance, not a dwelling-upon the event.

Simply..guilt, chutzpah and some great questions....

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