Simply..tears and joys....

15/5/2016

I am doing a lot of crying, but there is always something to make you laugh, like Extreme Knitting (scroll down as well as across), or to make you relax like the heatwave we have been having, or to make you gasp in delight, like the bluebells on the path to the shore..

and the clematis round the window with more flowers than ever before.

The tears come even with good news as the first thing I do is to look round for Barry to tell him, to share it with him.

I find some of these meditations helpful and this article, and this piece on heartbreak...If you are also grieving after a loss I hope they help you too.

Thank you Karen and Angela for leading me to these websites!
More on the garden coming soon....

18 Comments

Lotta link

13/5/2016 02:59:38 am

Welcome back Freda. I remember reading something helpful (Elaine Aron maybe?) that said to cry as much as you can, and to hold something soft against your chest - a pillow, soft toy etc because it helps you feel safe enough and comforted enough to let go into it. It really does help. I bought myself a soft toy rabbit with long floppy ears... He still sits on the bed! I'm glad you've had some warmth and beauty to sustain you too. Stunning bluebells! Hugs x

Freda

15/5/2016 08:36:40 pm

Thank you Lotta (will look up Elaine Aron).

Mary

13/5/2016 04:14:53 am

Heartbreak and crying go hand in hand. To have lost a love so dear--how else could you respond? With sorrow for the loss and yet joy for remembrance of the gift of that love. Samuel Beckett's line was right, "I can't go on. I'll go on." xo

Freda

15/5/2016 08:37:50 pm

I do appreciate that Beckett line.

Mary

16/5/2016 01:15:50 pm

I am somewhat hesitant to send you this since you are an artist, but I thought of you when I saw this article in the NY Times this morning...I won't send the link, but it is under their Health-Well section entitled, "Coloring Your Way Through Grief" (Jane Brody), if you are interested.

linda

13/5/2016 04:56:54 am

Of course you are crying. And thanks for the knitting link - it's just loopy! Sorry!!

Freda

15/5/2016 08:38:38 pm

Loopy it is! It looks like a lot of fun and I adore the bedspreads...

cath

13/5/2016 08:09:02 am

Happy smile seeing you are back this morning and bringing us bluebells, clematis and food for thought and soul.

Your tears honour your love.

Freda

15/5/2016 08:39:38 pm

:-)

Julia

14/5/2016 04:54:48 am

Yes, there is that familiar urge to share the joys and sorrows, the good news and the bad....the warmth and sharing of connection to the beloved.

Freda

15/5/2016 08:40:31 pm

Especially with someone you have spent more than half your life with....

Angela link

14/5/2016 07:32:12 am

Glorious flowers. Beautiful words. Sending hugs xx

Freda

15/5/2016 08:41:28 pm

Thank you Angela, you always cheer me.

Penny L

15/5/2016 01:29:54 pm

How could you not be crying?but you are still properly living too, noticing the small, good things in your life. Sending you lots and lots of love and virtual higs . (I meant to say hugs, spell check is suggesting I meant to say Whigs!!!) Pennyxxxxxxx

Freda

15/5/2016 08:42:29 pm

Higs hugs Whigs - all welcome Penny!

Gillie

15/5/2016 02:15:56 pm

Lovely to have you back Freda. I've been thinking about you and wondering how you are. How touching that even in your sadness you can still find beauty in the natural world. I hope you can take comfort in it. It will always there for you .

Freda

15/5/2016 08:44:30 pm

I have always said that beauty sustains me, and am now finding that to be true. Kind comments also sustain me Gillie. Thank you.

Karen

27/5/2016 05:13:40 am

Such beautiful bluebells - and clematis -- sigh.
Sending love as always x

Simply..tears and joys....

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