Simply..the worst thing....

31/7/2023

about getting older is that there are too many funerals. It doesn't take a particularly smart Student Of Old Age to notice this.

I struggle to find words on the loss of a very dear friend, but here are some words of wisdom from a greetings card (author unknown).

Healing is messy.

It's feeling ok and feeling it all, all over again.

It's one step at a time with no time limit.

It's bravery and resilience and endless tiny acts of courage.

Keep going.

16 Comments

Mary B

31/7/2023 02:47:55 pm

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend . I understand how you feel , as over the last twelve months I have had to say goodbye to several friends . Over the same time period I realised that I have reached that stage of life when there are frequent funerals ,each one stirring memories of years past and treasured friendship. It has made me realise the importance of nurturing remaining friendships, particularly those from long ago , when we shared the joyful exuberance of youthful years. Sometimes there are no words for loss and all we can do is keep going and treasure the memories. Sending hugs x

Freda

2/8/2023 01:21:09 am

Thank you, MaryB. I think your point about nurturing friendships is so important, as is caring for those left behind. Sharing helps.

Susan inDorset

31/7/2023 09:53:31 pm

I am sorry to hear about your dear friend, Freda.

Freda

2/8/2023 01:22:01 am

Thank you so much.

Liz G

1/8/2023 01:43:18 am

Precisely so. My aunt, who died at 97 always said the wore thing about ageing was losing contempories,,not just friends, as too many mutual memories, of ordinary life as well as the more personal, re lost, with no-one to share the past with.
Being able to participate in friends funerals online as I did on Friday, is somehow a mixed blessing of convenience when travel is too far or too difficult, but also very impersonal.

Freda

2/8/2023 01:24:13 am

I have not had that online experience, but can imagine it is rather strange. As during Covid, no hugs. I’m sorry to hear of your loss. It is hard.

Gail

1/8/2023 01:55:56 am

Hugs while you grieve

Freda

2/8/2023 01:25:05 am

Thank you. All hugs help.

KarenAd

1/8/2023 02:40:30 am

Sending you much sympathy and a hug, Freda.
You will probably know the poem 'S/he is gone' accredited to David Harkins? It always comforts me.

My grandmother, who died at 99, said much the same things, Liz. "There is now no-one alive who remembers me when I was young.'

Freda

2/8/2023 01:26:10 am

I had not heard that poem, so thank you very much for sharing it here.

Mary R.

1/8/2023 04:55:27 am

So very sorry for the loss of your friend, Freda. I have lost many family members but yet to lose a dear friend and even the thot of it grieves me.

Freda

2/8/2023 01:27:09 am

It is a painful thing

Sheena

2/8/2023 12:00:32 am

So sorry to hear of your loss, Freda, as the loss of a friend is very hard. Treasure the good memories.

Freda

2/8/2023 01:27:51 am

Happily there are many many lovely memories. Thanks.

Rosemary

2/8/2023 12:18:51 am

Those words say so much. 'One step at a time with no time limit', 'Endless tiny acts if courage'. Yes.

Freda

2/8/2023 01:30:10 am

Bravery, courage and resilience, are things we need to cultivate as we get older I think. I found these words really helpful.

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